There has to be another way

Are you tired of walking on egg shells wondering if you're going to say the wrong thing and it will set them off? If you’re tired of the screaming and yelling and all the chaos, I’ve been there. I was determined to find another way to support my loved one who was using substances.

Everyone has their own Recovery. It's not one way. What works for one may not work for another. There is no perfect way to deal with this, just like no one has a perfect life.

We talk about this all the time in the support group I lead. People who are in the chaos, or people who thought they were out of the chaos but have slipped backwards - people at all stages of this rocky road come together to feel understood. We all need a reminder of the “tools” sometimes.

We have to be healthy to help others become healthier. Frantically yelling or numbing out were not tools, they were coping mechanisms. Like putting a muffler on a knocking engine or popping more pain killers rather than searching for a way to fix the problem.

This probably sounds simple, and of course we all know that improving our relationship with anyone in general makes everyone more happy and healthy, but how does someone improve their relationship with a loved one who is addicted to drugs and/or alcohol?

That’s the difficult part. But I have good news: If I can do it, anyone can!  

I knew there had to be another way then yelling and pleading and begging and screaming and name calling. I was so done with that.

Honestly when I changed my loved one changed.

There was more peace and calmness and happiness for everyone.

If you’re a mom who’s ready to find a better way to support your loved one, I hope you will join me at the Healing Hearts Retreat in September, 2025: